tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8373304125884838366.post8968865143953739786..comments2024-02-17T10:50:46.967-08:00Comments on LDS Parenting: Love One Another …. The Post I’ve Been Waiting Forjlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06765882772488949507noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8373304125884838366.post-67824252060520978452013-11-26T08:18:14.355-08:002013-11-26T08:18:14.355-08:00Such important words !!!! Thank you! I appreciate ...Such important words !!!! Thank you! I appreciate it so much! jlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06765882772488949507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8373304125884838366.post-14989984791554318672013-11-05T11:37:44.384-08:002013-11-05T11:37:44.384-08:00Ugh! I hate it when comments like that poison my m...Ugh! I hate it when comments like that poison my mind. Whenever you put yourself out there, like in blogging, you open the door to criticism. <br /><br />I had an experience a few months ago where a nasty comment was directed my way (not through my blog- but it was a criticism about my parenting skills which are the WORST most hurtful criticisms, in my opinion). Like you, I couldn’t stop thinking about it. It was like an infection that festered and bugged me to no end.<br /><br /> Finally, I decided I needed to face it head-on. I asked myself, “Is what she said true?” The answer was no. Once that was settled, I realized that when people make unnecessary critical comments like that, it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. I thought about the jab that had been directed at me and I thought, “I would never say something like that to someone. I would never want them to feel inadequate in what they’re doing. That’s just mean.” Then I realized- the comment had far more to do with the person who said it than it had to do with me. Just because someone says something doesn’t make it true, but it does expose a truth about them. I realized that the person who said it about me clearly felt the need to put me down for some reason. Maybe I intimidate them? Maybe they feel that their parenting skills are lacking so they feel the need to point out others’? I had a feeling that it stemmed from insecurity. <br /><br />I decided that I could continue on my way and, rather than dwelling on untruths, focus instead on the person who was feeling inadequate. I decided that I would do my best to show my appreciation and love for her so that she would hopefully not feel the need to make those sorts of comments to me- or anyone else- from that point on. I was able to forgive and show an increase of love, and recognize that hurtful comments only hurt if you believe them.<br /><br />Keep doing what you love and remember that when people put you down it says a lot more about them than it says about you. :-)<br />KaseyQhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18394640941485859111noreply@blogger.com